Tip Tuesday: Timing Matters

During your optimal time of the day tackle what you dread doing and what matters most.

My son’s love language is touch, mine… not sure, but definitely not touch. In trying to strengthen my relationship with him I wanted to add more hugs. My first reaction was at night. After several weeks of the hugs being more of a checklist item than a sincere expression of love, I realized nights are not my best time of the day. I am a morning person. So I switched my emphasis to big, 6 to 10 second morning hugs. The result: my hugs have become a true joy to give and my son has responded with bigger hugs back. Timing really matters!

Lesson from moving to California: Love What You Have

If you wear them, rose­ colored glasses are for looking at the present, not longing for the past. My first two years in California where full of textbook ways to integrate my family into our new area. We got involved in the community and explored our new surroundings. Still, I longed for my life in Oregon.

My rose­colored glasses for the past were blinding me to fully appreciating the beauty of the present. My body was present, but my heart was only half committed. It was only after a real opportunity presented itself for our family to return to the Northwest that I objectively looked at what I would be leaving behind. When I chose to accept California as home and the best place to be, I was able to create stronger relationships, better memories and appreciate the things that only a small farming community could offer.

Maybe it was because we didn’t choose where we were going when we were relocated. Maybe it was because I love the heartbeat of the city. I am not sure why, at first, I couldn’t give my whole heart to living in California. However, what I learned was holding onto the past can prevent you from enjoying the present.

An Organized Car… Really!

With four kids I often feel I live in my car. With that comes a lot of mess. Here are 5 ways to keep your car clutter free from Diane Kahler of Organize You, LLC.

We all spend so much time in our cars. For some, we spend several hours at a time in our car. We take kids from one place to another, run errands , go to and from work as well as vacations. No wonder for some of us they have become our second home. But unlike our home, our cars aren’t big enough to carry all of our stuff on a daily bases. We can however keep the things we need at our finger tips and still have it be organized.

Here are my tips for maintaining a neat and organized car.


1st) You will need to first take everything out of the car, (that means the things that are in the glove box, ashtrays and trunk area) Throw away all trash. Then, using the same method when organizing a room, creat three piles: things that don’t belong in your car, things you use in the car and emergency items.

2nd) Ask yourself how you use your car. Do you use it for business (maybe your a salesperson who basically works out of your car). Are you a busy mom running from place to place. Maybe you’re a Realtor who takes clients to view properties. Do you mostly stay around town or do you use your car for road trips.

3rd) Go through your three piles you created and figure out what are the most import things to you. What do you need to keep at arms reach. What are the things that you have to have in your car but can be put in the truck. Are these things seasonal items, can they be stored on a shelf ? You really don’t need a snow brush in your car during the summer months.

4th) Figure out what you need to contain all those items so that you don’t have to hunt for a pen and paper, or my personal favorite look for your cell phone that has fallen under the seat. There are a lot of storage products out there for all sorts of different needs. You might want to check out The Container Store or Target for ideas.

5th) Place those items in your storage containers. Need tissues but don’t want to have a big box lose in the car. Try a tissue holder that fits on a visor, or a tissue cup. Don’t put anything on the floor (not even a trash bag). Once you start, it is too easy just to keep adding to it.

Diane Kahler

Organizing You, LLC

Diane Kahler, lifestyle organizer and owner, is a busy mother of two who has taken organizing to the next level. She uses her unique experiences as an artist, photographer and corporate trainer to inspire others to create organizational systems that are uniquely designed just for them!


“When Charlie McButton Lost Power”

In my home, the solution to this boredom always seems include electronic devices, game systems, tv, a movie, or virtual games. s book, “When Charlie McButton Lost Power”, it takes on the idea of what is lost when to much time is spent plugged in. Suzanne Colllins is one of my favorite authors. I love her s world and giving me books to read with them to open a discussion.

In “When Charlie McButton Lost Power”, Charlie McButton is a happy child until tragedy strikes, a Will he t work. Instead he until the battery dies. His desperation leads to a series of bad choices. When he calms down from the consequences given, he becomes open to something more rewarding: using his imagination and playing with his little sister Isabel Jane.

This will be the first book I read and talk about with my children this summer. Then when they complain and beg for more electronics, to relieve their summer boredom, I can ask them to discover something new like Charlie McButton. Who knows, they may even discover, like Charlie, that there is a world without electronics that can be fun.

Thoughtful Thursday-Disconnect

“Oh, it’s finally back, Charlie thought with a grin. Tomorrow I’ll wake up and I can plug in! But another thought hit him he couldn’t explain: I might also fin dragons with Isabel Jane.”

From “When Charlie McButton Lost Power” by Suzanne Collins

How can you disconnect from electronics today to connect with someone in your life?

On the move: Three things I learned moving to three different states

After moving, the boxes get mostly emptied and pictures hung on the wall. Now there is finally a moment to breathe and relax. The physical aspects of moving are demanding. When they are over, however, the emotional demands of a new start can take over. Ten years ago, our family relocated to a new state for the first time. Two states later, I have learned some valuable and sometimes hard lessons about making moving a little more emotionally successful for myself and family. Here are the three lessons I have learned.

Oregon: Explore where you live

California: Love what you have

Colorado: Stay true to yourself

Part One: Oregon

When we moved to Beaverton, Oregon we had two children ages 5 and almost 3. This was our first time being more than 90 minutes from family. My oldest started kindergarten the day after we arrived. Part of this transition going smoothly was my college roommate, Heather, had moved to the area a few months earlier. I had instant support, but it turned out to be more than that. s family came to the area for her husband to do his Pediatric Residency at Oregon Health & Science University. To encourage families to acclimate, OHSU had a contest with numerous activities to do within a couple hours radius of where we lived. After a year, who ever earned the most points from doing activities would win. Our family was lucky enough to tag along with a lot of these activities. This helped Oregon become a home we loved for three reasons.

1. We saw amazing landscape and had great adventures.

2. We created great memories in our new life that we couldn’t have created anywhere else.

3. It encouraged me to go beyond the list and find new favorites like a fun consignment shop, great ethnic food and loving being near the water, ocean or river.

It doesn’t matter if you have lived somewhere for 20 years or 2 months. Exploring where you live can help you love it!

Thoughtful Thursday

Ok, Ok, I know its technically Friday but the AWESOME 3 day weekend I had has thrown me off and made me forget what day of the week it actually is 😉 So we will call this one Fantastic Thought Friday!!

There is little success where there is little laughter. ~Andrew Carnegie

Take time to laugh more!